Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Winter in Oklahoma

A lot of the people that read my blog live in different countries and I am sure they wonder about our weather.  This sign kind of says it all.
This last weekend our high was in in the teens and below.  This weekend it is suppose to be 70.  Can not wait. I am tired of snow and cold but at the same time I feel bad for those people who live in the north.    My squirrels and birds have had to be kept in food and thawed water.

If you click on this picture there is a squirrel on that block of food, a squirrel in that green basket on the fence and a squirrel in the glass feeder on the tree.
Then we had a couple of birds that seem to appear just about every day.  He is stitting in the tree across the street and he caught my eye.  Then he decided to come and eat. 

The bird on the far left is the female cardinal. 

My husband got a bird feeder that sits right by his computer.  It has a two way mirror so the bird can't see us but we can see them. 

I would love to here how your winter's are going and for some (Rose!)  how your summers are going. 
Much love, Cheri

Sunday, February 9, 2014

Vintage Weekly- Paris

I am working on a caregiving post but I have started and stopped it numerous times.  It sounded like a pity party, it sounded mean, it sounded whiny or all of the above, so I thought I would throw out a non caregiving post and go back to vintage weekly.  Some more of Paris!!

Remember these were taken with non digital cameras that's what make vintage weekly the blog it is.

This photo was inside Notre Dame and the lighting was bad.

This is outside in the courtyard.
this is the stained glass inside again.
The courtyard of Notre Dame is covered with tourist and most of all beggers.  They warn you not to get taken.  It is a beautiful church with the most stunning stained glass.
Much love, Cheri

Sunday, January 26, 2014

What about me, what about me, what about me!

If you read my previous blog you know this week has been a rough one.  We are never ready for someone we love to go before we feel it is time.  The events of the week didn't stop with Gretchen passing though.  The same day that Gretchen (as my husband puts it) changed her address to her heavenly home, my mom tripped over my dog and fell.  She lives with Dennis and me and watches over him during the day while I am at work.  I had to call the ambulance and we took her to Integris Bass Hospital in Enid.  Our doctor is in Uganda on a mission trip at the moment and we didn't know if she had a broken shoulder or not so we went on to the big city!  It's an hour away so Dennis's dad and our friend Max came over to sit with Dennis while I went to Enid.  My little brother met us at the hospital.  It is in the quiet of the car, alone and driving, satan can creep in and start to do his damage.  I decided that was a great time to have an all-out pity party.  I cried and wept and asked God what the heck was going on??  I can't handle all this at once, what am I going to do??  I am going to have to cook, I am going to have to feed Dennis and work and on and on. What about my work??  Do you see the common word here, it's I and me and my.  My favorite T.V. evangelist is Joyce Meyer and she says these words in a robot voice, "what about me, what about me, what about me."  So at the point I figured out I was a mess, d said to me in a very calming way, "settle down, trust me, praise me."   I put my praise C.D. in and I sang praise songs all the way to Enid.  Well, mom had a dislocated shoulder and is doing well, (after a little bit of stomach flu :\   ).  I am going back to work after taking 3 days’ vacation and we are going to do the best we can, one step at a time.  The biggest thing that I wanted to convey is that we have to trust and lean on God.  He gets us through every time and why is it so hard to turn to Him first..  When mom fell she was in so much pain and I told her just cry Jesus and she did.  I sat down beside her and we prayed and her awesome EMT people prayed and sang with her all the way to Enid.  You are an angel Rita!    In times like these we HAVE to put our trust in God for He is the only one who will get us through. 

 Toby decided to be guardian over our patient!   Much love, Cheri.

P.S.  I forgot to mention that during all this, Dennis's wheelchair acting up and we have to take him places in the manual chair.  Ready to start a new week!

Friday, January 24, 2014

Sometimes blogs are hard.

Sometimes you don't know what topic to write on or how much to write about it.  My life is pretty much an open book and I try to give people a perspective about living with a quadraplegic that you wouldn't normally see.  But sometimes things are private and hurtful and the emotions are so painful that you don't know if there is a fine line that you are going to cross or not.  This week has been painful.  My sister-in-law Gretchen has passed away after a 2 1/2 year fight with cancer.  Gretchen loved life and she had a way of engaging everyone she met.  She was only 52 and she leaves behind her husband Alan and her children Karley who is 16 and Gavin who is 19.  She was way to young to go and these are the times when I ask God why?  I know that we will have the answers when we are all in heaven together, or maybe we won't have the answers and we just won't care when we are there rejoicing with Jesus.  But on this earth we want to rationalize everything and we are the ones left behind to grieve and carry on, it's not fair.  Life's not always fair but the one thing I do know is I want to be in heaven where all my loved ones are and I do know that I will see Gretchen again, I will see my friend Cathy again, my daddy, and the list goes on and on.  I also know that I don't want to take the chance of not seeing them again, so I will choose Jesus.  When Dennis was in the hospital God gave me this scripture and I have blogged about it before.  Psalms 30:5...weeping may endure for a night, but Joy comes in the Morning.  We have to hold on to that,  the joy of the Lord is our strength. 

                                                                 Gretchen Boyer
Much love, Cheri

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Quad Wife Confessions- Sundays

Let me start off by saying I love my church.  It has taken me some getting used to our new building because I loved that old Methodist church building.  Some of the best times on my life were in that old building.  Our kids grew up there, we sponsored many a junior high and high school dance in the basement, where my Sunday school class was also held.  But the new church is great and big and beautiful.  In the winter we don’t get to go as much since the weather plays a huge issue about how Dennis feels.  But he loves getting out among people and when we do get to go it lifts his spirit.  This is our beautiful church.



My Sunday always starts out with Satan whispering in my ear.  You don’t want to get up, it’s cold, this is your only day to rest,  etc.  Getting ready to go somewhere is a lot of work and I can easily talk myself out of it.  You have to shave, feed, brush teeth and dress.  Then I have to get ready.  Then I have to get  Dennis in the chair and situated.  This is where Satan does a number on us.  Dennis’s dad can put Dennis right in the chair no problem.  When I do it the cheek piece isn’t right,  then the left flap of the head array is in to close, then the right flap is out too far. I’m sure you get the drift.   I start to get really testy and my patience wears thin.  Again, it’s not Dennis’s fault , it is just frustrating for both of us and Satan can really use that to come against us on Sunday mornings.  Our church starts an hour earlier than the other churches in town,  so we have had to give up Sunday School altogether and I do not like being late for church.  But as always, God always gets us there on time and we are blessed once we get there.  Hebrews 10:25
not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching.

This is one of my favorite pictures.  It's Dennis, before his accident, working on the floor of our new church building.

                                             Much love, Cheri

Friday, December 27, 2013

Post Christmas

I love Christmastime and I am always a little sad when it's over, but I am also a little relieved . The hustle and bustle of taking care of Dennis, working and gettting ready for the holidays takes it toll on me after awhile.  I did love seeing my family at Christmas and it makes me sad we don't see each other more during the year, but our lives are all so busy.  We need to take more time and slow down.  Here are some snaps of my family during the holidays.  My daughter Whitney and her husband Nick.
 Dennis with his gifts from Santa!
Whitney and I in our Christmas jammies on Christmas morning.
We hope everyone had a blessed Christmas and will pray for everyone a Happy New Year!
Much love, Cheri

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

Mary, Did You Know?

Being a mother I often wonder about Mary.  During the joy of childbirth did she really understand God's plan for her son.  Did she worry the whole time he was growing up about what was to come?The heartbreak of watching Him suffer unspeakable cruel torture and then watching Him die on the cross....for us.  Thank you, God for sending your son to save us, the best gift ever.  Merry Christmas and much love, Cheri